Changing things is going to be hard.

Ever wondered why a therapist’s website says how supportive they’ll be? Or why they say how comfortable and safe their office is? It’s because it’s hard to change your mind and that’s what therapy is all about. Therapy can be very challenging. You will often hear a...

Anxiety about the future

Many of us have experienced anxiety and worries about future events. Anxiety is defined as a feeling of worry, nervousness, or unease about something with an uncertain outcome. Quite often we may become obsessively worried about something that might or might not...

Are you OK? Of course you are!

“Are you OK?” Is a question we ask a lot but do we stop to consider what it might really mean?   In 1973, Thomas A. Harris first published his book I’m OK, you’re OK. Those words describe neatly one of the fundamental principles of the style of psychotherapy that...

Observation. A Key Therapeutic Skill

The quote about is from Sigmund Freud, one of the founders of modern psychoanalytic thinking. What he means is that if a person keenly observes another he will gain some understanding that a person is disturbed, anxious or uneasy about something. Observation is as...

The flower

The flower replied: You fool! Do you imagine I blossom in order to be seen? I blossom for my own sake because it pleases me, and not for the sake of others. My joy consists in my being and my blossoming. – Irvin Yalom, The Schopenhauer...